PRAYER MINISTRY INTAKE FORM

STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL

EYES ONLY

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ST. JAMES THE LESS CHURCH October 2, 2002

A LIFE HISTORY OUESTIONNAIRE

PURPOSE OF THIS QUESTIONNAIRE

The purpose of this questionnaire is to obtain a comprehensive picture of your background. By completing these questions as fully and accurately as you can, you will facilitate your therapeutic program. This questionnaire will save you both time and expense. You are requested to answer these routine questions on your own time, instead of using up your actual counseling time.

It is understandable that you might be concerned about what happens to the information about you, because much or all of this information is highly personal. Case records are strictly confidential. No outsider , not even your closest relative or family doctor is permitted to see your case record without your written permission.

IMPORTANT: If you do not desire to answer any question, write "Do not care to answer". Also, if some particular question does not apply to you, simply write "N/A" in the space provided.

DATE: _________________________ .

GENERAL INFORMATION

A. Name _______________________________________________________________________________

B. Address ______________________________________________ Phone Nos. where you can be

reached._______________________________________email:_____________________

City _______________________ Province___________________ Area Code __________________

C. Age ___________________ D. Occupation ____________________________

E. Religion _______________________ Attendance: Regular Occasional Never (Circle one )

F. With whom are you now living? (List people, their names, ages and occupations. If they are students, indicate what grade. )

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G. List 3 people not mentioned in F above who are important to you - people who are

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H. How strongly do you want treatment for your problem? (Circle One)

Very much Much Moderately Could do without, if necessary _________

OCCULTIC COUNTERFEIT RELIGION INVENTORY

SESSION NINE

Before you start this step to freedom and wholeness in Christ, you need to renounce all activity you have been involved in that would encompass false religion, occult or satanically inspired practices. The following list is not comprehensive. It gives an indication of some of the areas in each section where Christians may have come into bondage. There may well be other occult or psychic activities not included that may be equally harmful that you are aware of. Please indicate your involvement under “other”. Mark this list by ticking in the appropriate box if you, your spouse or your family have been involved in the areas.

OCCULT AND PSYCHIC:

Has there been any personal or family involvement, “scientific” or otherwise, in the following?

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Astrology 1 Ching

Clairvoyance Metaphysics

Crystal Ball Numerology

Edgar Cayce Ouija Board

Horoscopes Palm Reading

Pendulum Planchette

White Magic Psychic Powers

Dungeons & Dragons Table Tipping

Tarot Cards Tea Leaves

Telekinesis (fork bending) Telepathy

Water Divining Yin-Yang

Wicka (Good Witch) Other

PSYCHIC RITES, SERVICES AND ACTIVITIES:

(This will include whether you were present in the womb at any activities.)

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Astral Flight/Projection Levitation

Psychic Power Medium (trying to be)

Spiritism (ualism) Voodoo

Seances ²⁷ Witchcraft (Rebellion)

Satanism Other Black Arts

VISITING PLACES OF OCCULT OR PSYCHIC SIGNIFICANCE:

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Druid Temples Oriental Temples

Concentration Camps Native Sweat Lodges

Museums of Torture Occult Museums

Occult Shrines Other

OCCULT OR PSYCHIC HEALING:

(Any personal or family involvement in the following which are known to have occult or psychic origins?)

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

(Muscle testing)

“Applied” Kinisiology Healing Stones

Acupressure/Acupuncture Homeopathic Medicines

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Healing/Therapeutic Touch Reflexology

Bach Remedies Hypnosis

Coloured Rods Iriscopy (eye diagnosis)

Crystals Magnetic Healing

Pyramids

Radionics

²⁷1 Samuel 15:22, ²³ But Samuel replied: “Does the Lord delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the voice of the Lord? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams. ²³ For rebellion is like the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the Lord, he has rejected you as king.”

²⁸ Based on supposed meridians or tracks of energy that flow through the body. The need to balance and centre this “chi” or “energy” is the basis of this healing practice. This energy is referred to as the cosmic energy of the universe, which needs to flow through the body organs to maintain health. (Based on Taoist practice and philosophy).

NEW AGE MOVEMENT

The increasing evidence of the New Age Movement in all walks of our society comes clearly under the umbrella of Occult & Psychic, because the forces behind it in all its forms are satanic. What, if any, has been your interest in contact or involvement with the New Age Philosophy?

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

One World Religion One World Order

All religion leads to God Eastern mysticism

New Age business course New Age therapies

Man is divine/Self is God One World Government

EST/Pursuit of Excellence Other

SUPERSTITIONS:

(By you or the family as to protection from danger, evil, etc.)

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Omens Rabbit’s Foot

Amulets St. Christopher

Bracelets for luck Unicorns

Brooches for luck Protective Cross

Good Luck Ornaments Zodiac Charms (wearing)

Pagan Fetishes Zodiac Charms (wearing)

Mutilation Branding

Piercing Tattoos

Fortune Cookies Other

NOTE:

Tattoos: Can give a legal right for a spirit of poverty; spirit of infirmity; of confusion.

SECRET COMMITMENTS:

Have you or your family made any secret commitments in any way?

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Knights of Columbus Shriners

Beta Sigma Phi Eastern Star

Blood Pacts Freemasons

Buffaloes Job’s Daughters

Druids Nationalist Groups

HERESIES AND SECTS:

Have you or your family joined, accepted or taught the beliefs of any of these?

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Anthroprosophy Christian Science

Bahai Jehovah’s Witness

Children of God Eckankar

Christadelphians Karma

Moonies Reincarnation

White Supremacy Unitarian

OTHER WORLD RELIGIONS:

Have you or your family joined, accepted or taught the beliefs of any of these?

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Ancestor Worship Confucianism

Animism Hare Krishna

Baha’ism Shintoism

Black Muslims Hinduism

Buddhism (Zen Buddhism) Islam

Mormonism Other

Satanism

ORIENTAL MIND OR BODY TRAINING:

Have you or your family any involvement in:

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Tai Chi Martial Arts

Yoga

Other

INTELLECTUAL AND RELIGIOUS:

Has there been active denial of or teaching against the following:

Centrality of the Cross Reality of Satan

Deity of Jesus Reality of Sin

His Bodily Resurrection Second Coming

Holy Spirit The Trinity

Reality of Evil Spirits Other

LITERATURE AND MUSIC:

Are there any books, tapes, CD’s, or articles in you or your family’s possession on the above matters by writers advocating quasi-Christian or other activities, religions or belief to which you previously adhered? P.S. If you have these books, etc., for information only, I would advise you to pray and ask the Lord for discernment as to the possibility of these books attracting unwelcome evil/demonic spirits into your house.

OTHER ACTIVITIES WITH POSSIBLE PSYCHIC CONNECTIONS THROUGH ADDICTIONS:

Activity Me Fam Sp Activity Me Fam Sp

Alcohol Horror Films/Stories

Drugs Obsessions

Fantasy Games (D & D) Overeating/Under-eating

Gambling Tobacco

Heavy Rock Music Lotto

Bingo Other

EXPERT DOAGNOSIS:

Have you or your family had expert diagnosis by a “qualified” person (doctor, specialist, teacher, clergyman, parent) that has projected some negative aspect of your life? ______________________________________

EXAMPLES:

In ten year’s time you will ________________________________________________________________

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This medical condition cannot _____________________________________________________________

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You’ll never become a ___________________________________________________________________

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Why can’t you be like? ___________________________________________________________________

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What will be, will be _____________________________________________________________________

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Has there been “expert” diagnosis that you or your family has regarded as now unchangeable? Which was

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LET THE PATIENT BEWARE:

Beware of therapies that are energy based and claim to manipulate “invisible energies” or rely on psychic anatomies.

Beware of those who utilize psychic knowledge, power or abilities.

Beware of a practitioner who has a therapy that almost no one else knows of.

Beware of any technique that is promoted to the general public before it has been validated by mainstream science.

Beware of anyone claiming that his therapy will cure almost anything, as in some kinds of chiropractic, color therapy, acupuncture, and homeopathy.

Beware of someone whose explanations are bizarre or don’t make sense.

Beware of therapies whose primary proof is found in the testimonies of satisfied clients.

Beware of therapies that rely upon entering altered states of consciousness, such as hypnotic regression, meditation and many visualization programs.

Realize that a practitioner’s sincerity is no guarantee of scientific or medical legitimacy.

II. CLINICAL

You can help us save time by explaining in your own words some things about your problem. Please be as specific as possible. A few particular examples of how the problem comes up would be valuable.

A. State in your own words the nature of your chief concern: _____________________________________

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B. If your problem is something that you think happens too often, state approximately how often it occurs, how long it lasts, and any other information you feel might be helpful in understanding your problem._____________________________________________________________________________

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C. If your problem is concerned with something not happening as often as you would like, state what you would like to see happen more often, how often you think it should occur, etc.

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D. Are any of the people in Section I, items F and G, important in some way with your problem?

YES _____ NO_____

If yes, please mention specific ways they have helped you - both good and bad points should be mentioned, if possible. _____________________________________________________________________________

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E. With whom have you talked about your problem? ___________________________________________

F. What medications are you taking? _______________________________________________________

III. DEVELOPMENTAL INFORMA TION

A. Date and place of birth: _____________________________________________________________

B. Approximately how many times did your family move when you were young?_____________

Since you left your parental home?_____________ Your age when you left? _____________

C. Childhood:

Mother's condition during pregnancy (as far as you know)

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Underline any of the following that apply during your childhood:

Night terrors; Bed wetting; Sleep-walking; Thumb-sucking; Nail-biting; Stammering; Fears; Happy childhood; Unhappy childhood.

D Health:

Health during childhood:____________________________________________________________

List childhood illnesses: ____________________________________________________________

Health during adolescence: __________________________________________________________

List adolescent illnesses: ____________________________________________________________

Any physical disabilities? ___________________________________________________________

How related to your present problem? ____________________________________________________

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Your present height: ________________________________ Weight: ______________________

Any surgical operations? Please list them, and at what age they occurred.

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8. When was the last time you felt well, both physically and emotionally for a fair amount of time?

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Underline any of the following that apply to you: Headaches; Dizziness; Fainting spells; Palpitations; Stomach trouble; No appetite; Bowel disturbances; Fatigue; Insomnia; Nightmares; Take Sedatives; Alcoholism; Feel tense, Feel panic; Tremors; Depressed; Suicidal ideas; Drugs; Unable to relax; Sexual problems; Unable to have a good time; Don't like weekends and vacations; over- ambitious; Shy with people; Can't make friends; Feel lonely; Can't make decisions; Can't keep a job; Inferiority feelings; Home conditions bad; Financial problems.

Other _________________________________________________________________________________

IV. VOCATIONAL INTERESTS

A. Game and interests during childhood: (Including make-believe)

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B. Interests and hobbies during adolescence:

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C. Any athletic interests and/or accomplishments?

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D. Present interests, hobbies, activities, organizations:

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E. How is most of your free time occupied?

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V. EDUCATION:

A. Last grade or year completed: ___________________________________________________________

Degree(s): _______________________________________________________________________

Dates(s) _________________________________________________________________________

B. Relationship to schoolmates: ____________________________________________________________

C. Scholastic abilities and disabilities: _______________________________________________________

D, Were you ever bullied, or given a nick-name? Please explain briefly.

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E. Do you make friends easily?________________Do you keep them? _____________________________

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VI. OCCUPATION:

A. Age when you started working: __________________________________________________________

B. Jobs held (in chronological order and reasons for change)

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C. How long employed in present job? ______________________________________________________

D. Does your present work satisfy you? (If not, in what ways are you dissatisfied?)

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E. What do you and your spouse earn? ______________________________________________________

F. Ambitions and aspirations: _____________________________________________________________

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VII. SEX INFORMATION

A. Parental attitudes toward sex. (For example, was there sex instruction or discussion in the home?)

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B. When and how did you derive your first knowledge of sex? ____________________________________

C. When did you first become aware of your sexual impulses? ____________________________________

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D. Did you ever experience any anxieties or guilt feelings or trauma arising out of masturbation? If yes, please explain. __________________________________________________________________________

E. Did you ever experience any anxieties or guilt feelings or trauma arising out of sexual experience with the opposite sex? If yes, please explain. _________________________________________________________

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F. Did you ever experience any anxieties or guilt feelings or trauma arising out of sexual experience with the same sex (homosexuality)? If yes, please explain. ______________________________________________

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G. Menstrual History: Age at first period ______________

Were you informed, or did it come as a shock? _______________________________________

Are you regular? _______________________ Duration _______________________

Do you have pain? ______________ Does your periods affect your moods? _________________

H. Is there any question or concern you have about sex past/present or future, or sexual identity?

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VIII. MARITAL HISTORY -Present Marriage

A. How long did you know your marriage partner before engagement? ___________________________

How long were you engaged? ________________ How long have you been married? _______________

B. Please describe something of what you liked and disliked about your mate: ______________________

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What I liked the first few years: ___________________________________________________________

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What my mate liked the first few years: ______________________________________________________

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What I disliked the first few years: __________________________________________________________

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What my mate disliked the first few years: ___________________________________________________

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What I have liked the last few months: ______________________________________________________

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What I have disliked the last few months: ____________________________________________________

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What my mate has liked/disliked the last few months: ___________________________________________

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VIII. MARITAL HISTORY (Continued)

C. In what areas are you most compatible? ___________________________________________________

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D. In what areas is there incompatibility? ___________________________________________________

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E. How do you get along with your in-laws (This includes brothers-in-law, and sisters-in-law): _________

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F. Give specific examples of those things you would like to see your spouse do more often (e.g. take the garbage out, bring you a cup of coffee when you have just sat down to relax, etc. ): ___________________

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G. Give three specific examples of things you would like to see your spouse stop doing. (Three particular things that irritate you.): __________________________________________________________________

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H. Please list the names of your children, from the oldest to youngest: (State if any of these children are from a previous marriage, or adopted) (Also, in the birth order, please include any miscarriages, or abortions.) Please give the following information:

Name	Sex	Age	Marital Status	Job	Describe each person

VIII. MARITAL HISTORY-Previous Marriages:

When were you first married and for how long? _______________________________________________

How long did you know your first spouse before engagement? ___________________________________

How long were you engaged? _____________________________________________________________

Please describe something you liked and disliked about your previous mate:

What I liked: _____________________________________________________________________

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What I disliked: ___________________________________________________________________

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Please -describe something of what your previous mate liked and disliked about you:

What he/she liked: ________________________________________________________________

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What he/she disliked _______________________________________________________________

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IX. FAMILY DATA

List all brothers and sisters from oldest to youngest, including yourself. Please list in birth order, including any miscarriages, or abortions that you know of.

Name	Sex	Age	Marital Status	Job	Describe each person

B. Your relation ship with your brothers and sisters?

(a) Past: _________________________________________________________________________

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(b) Present: ______________________________________________________________________

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C. Brother or sister most like you, in what respect? _____________________________________________

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D. Brother or sister most different from you, in what respect? _____________________________________

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E. Who played together? __________________________________________________________________

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F. Any unusual achievements? _____________________________________________________________

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G. Any accidents or illnesses (bumps to head, hospitalizations, etc.)? _______________________________

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IX. FAMILY DATA (Continued):

H. "Father" here means the man who took primary responsibility for raising you. If that is a different person than your biological father, please describe what you know of your biological father on the back of this page, and describe your father on this page.

Father’s Name ___________________________________________ Current Age ___________________

Occupation _____________________________________________ Health: Good Average Poor

(Circle one)

If deceased, cause of death and age at death: __________________________________________________

Your age at the time ___________________________________________

Kind of person: _________________________________________________________________________

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His ambition for the children: ______________________________________________________________

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His relationship to the children: ____________________________________________________________

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His relationship to the Mother (his wife): _____________________________________________________

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His favorite child, why: ___________________________________________________________________

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Which child was most like Dad, why: ________________________________________________________

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Which child was most different from Dad, why: _______________________________________________

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As a child, what I liked about Dad: __________________________________________________________

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As a child, what I disliked about Dad: _______________________________________________________

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IX. FAMILY DATA (Continued)

H. "Mother" here means the woman who took primary responsibility for raising you. If that is a different person than your biological mother, please describe what you know of your biological mother on the back of this page, and describe your mother here.

Mother’s Name ________________________________________ Current Age ______________________

Occupation ___________________________________________ Health: Good Average Poor

(Circle one)

If deceased, cause of death and age at death ___________________________________________________

Your age at the time __________________________________________

Kind of person: _________________________________________________________________________

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Her ambition for the children:_______________________________________________________________

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Her relationship to the Father (her husband): __________________________________________________

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Her relationship to the children: ____________________________________________________________

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Her favorite child, why: ___________________________________________________________________

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Which child was most like Mom, why: _______________________________________________________

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Which child was most different from Mom, why _______________________________________________

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As a child, what I liked about Mom: _________________________________________________________

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As a child, what I disliked about Mom: ______________________________________________________

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IX. FAMILY DATA: (Continued)

J. As a child, in what ways were you punished by your parents? ___________________________________

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K. Give an impression of your home atmosphere (i.e., the home in which you grew up). ________________

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L. Were you able to confide in your parents? __________________________________________________

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M. If you were not brought up by your parents, who did raise you? Between what years? If you were raised by your parents, was there another parental figure? _____________________________________________

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N. Has anyone (parents, relatives, friends) ever interfered in your marriage, occupation, etc.? ____________

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0. Does any member of your family suffer from alcoholism, drug addiction, or anything which can be considered a "mental disorder"? ____________________________________________________________

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P Are there any other members of the family about whom information regarding illness, etc., is relevant?

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Q. Please try to remember any fearful or distressing experiences not previously mentioned.

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X. SELF DESCRIPTION

A. In what kinds of situations do you most readily lose self-control? (Cite particular instances if at all possible. Examples might be temper, uncontrollable crying, impatience, etc.):

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B. In which situations are you best able to maintain self-control?: _________________________________

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C. Give a word picture (description) of yourself, as you would be described by:

1. Your spouse: ___________________________________________________________________

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2.Your best friend: _________________________________________________________________

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3. Your worst enemy: ______________________________________________________________

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4. Yourself: ______________________________________________________________________

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FAMILY DATA

Complete the following sentences:

-As a child, I __________________________________________________________________________

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-For me, school was: ____________________________________________________________________

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-My childhood fears were ________________________________________________________________

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-.My childhood ambitions were: ___________________________________________________________

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.My role in my group of friends was: _______________________________________________________

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-The significant events in my physical and sexual development were: _____________________________

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- My social development was: _____________________________________________________________

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-The most important values in my family were: ________________________________________________

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-What stands out the most for me about my family life is: ________________________________________

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-My parents' relationship to each other was: ___________________________________________________

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-Brothers' and sisters' relationship to Dad was: _________________________________________________

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-Brothers' and sisters' relationship to Mother was: ______________________________________________

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-My parents' relationship to us children was: __________________________________________________

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BLESSINGS NOT GIVEN TO US

Look at the ways that children are wounded on both worksheets; Blessings Not Given and Hurtful Things Done To Us. Use a check mark in the left-hand column under D for Dad and M for Mom to identify where you experienced similar wounding. In the right-hand column under 1, where you have wounded others and under 2 where you are still receiving wounding.

D	M		1	2
		Did not seek what was best for the children, and giving that, even when it meant sacrificing their needs.
		Did not speak words of affirmation, praise, encourage, blessing and value.
		Did not give affectionate touch freely and often.
		Did not approach life as an adventure.
		Did not teach Beauty, Music Art, Nature.
		Did not have regular family gatherings.
		Did not appropriate discipline.
		Did not communicate; speaking in ways that are understandable and consistent.
		Did not make themselves known and share their hearts in appropriate ways.
		Lack of light heartedness; laughter, fun, tickles, wrestling, humor.
		Lack of security; a home that was not physically, emotionally and spiritually safe.
		Not valuing us and relationship more than family image or money or addictions.
		Not working and playing together.
		Did not say “Forgive Me”.
		Did not say “I Love You”.
		Did not make times a celebration.
		Not doing things just for fun.
		Lack of flexibility.
		Living in The Kingdom
		Did not teach us how to worship in church.
		Did not teach us how to worship and dance at home.
		Did not read and teach the Scriptures.
		Did not have bedtime prayer.
		Did not pray to and speak of Jesus as part of everyday.
		Did not give thanksgiving at meals.
		Did not model forgiveness.
		Did not pray and speak blessing over our lives and the lives of others including those people considered enemies.
		Teaching and Modeling
		Did not teach us how to trust in God during crisis.
		Did not teach us how to communicate and share our hearts.
		Did not teach us w to resolve conflict together as a family.
		Did not teach us how to be a husband or wife.
		Did not teach us how to handle money.
		Did not teach us about sexuality.

HURTFUL THINGS DONE TO US

D	M		1	2
		Father absent (physically or emotionally)
		Mother absent (physically or emotionally
		Not defended
		Abandoned or rejected ( physically, emotionally or verbally)
		Parents not wanting child.
		Not wanting child of your sex.
		Wanting a child for selfish reasons (e.g. to save marriage or find purpose)
		A parent being the reason that home was an insecure or unsafe place
		Blaming
		Not being allowed to speak.
		Parent(s) being closed off to closeness, unwilling to make themselves known.
		Parent(s) sharing things that were inappropriate or burdensome for child.
		Overly serious about life.
		Inflexible/rigid parenting.
		Religiousness.
		Control
		Manipulation.
		Acceptance conditional or not at all.
		Made to be responsible for parents emotional well being or for sibling.
		Abuse
		Verbal